LGBisexualTIQA+

Peer reviewed by Tori (Rebel) Follow her on Twitter @rebelnyx 💜

L – Lesbian (specifically, girl who likes girls)

G – Gay (person who likes person of the same sex, used for boys who like boys, but can be applied any gender)

B – Bisexual (person who like person of either sex)

While much of the world has come to accept (or at least acknowledge, through fierce denial) homosexuality. In my lifetime alone, I’ve seen blatant homophobes come around and applaud the Obama Administration for legalizing gay marriage. Those same people will say things like, “I’m ok with gays, but, like pick a side. You can’t have your cake and eat it too.” There’s much ignorance to be addressed here, but the take away is the complete dismissal of bisexual people. This practice is common not only in the straight community, but also in niches of the gay community.

Here, we will unpack the basics. I’m not going to tell you how to think. I’m going to tell you what we know & what I’ve experienced.

I’m coming out: I am straight. I’ve made out with girlfriends on dares, but I’ve never once been romantically or sexually involved with another girl. I’m all about the D …. Dudes …. jeez

LOL, anyway

RANT: How ridiculous of me to come out as straight, but that’s how ridiculous it is a concept for someone else to come out as anything else. & Why? because it’s no one else’s business. The whole concept of announcing your sexuality to others is so strange to me & always has been. The only people it should matter to is those you get involved with romantically or sexually. & I’m pretty sure they’re gonna know which way you lean without having to ask – as long as you’re being honest with yourself. Throughout my life, I’ve had a few people come out to me specifically. They’ve always said something to the extent of me never putting any pressure on them either way.

Casually talking with a fellow CIT at camp as a 14 year old, “Hey Nick, how was your school year? Any girls you chasing? … Or dudes? Cause that’s cool too.”

Maybe I wasn’t the most tip toe-y sensitive about things, but I think that’s ok because I’m just not trying to assume anything here. I didn’t know it when I was younger, but what I was doing was trying to avoid microaggressions. (Not very well, but I tried more so than I think my peers wanted to)

Microaggressions are the everyday verbal, nonverbal, and environmental slights, snubs, or insults, whether intentional or unintentional, which communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative messages to target persons based solely upon their marginalized group membership (Source)

We’ll address some common microaggressions with each post based on what we’re talking about. Learning about others through common misconceptions is a very reinforcing way of doing so. Now that we have that definition down, we can get back two it: bisexuality.

(See what I did there – ok I’m done… LOL jk I’ll never be done)

The Bisexual Resource Center has much more information for members & allies of the community.

MICROAGGRESSIONS

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Just pick one. I don’t have to.

While may straight & gay people cannot wrap their heads around being attracted to the sex their not attracted to, bisexuals do not have that baggage.

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You’re just a flip flop. I wear both shoes at once.

Firstly: Polyamory.

Secondly: Just because a bixsexual person is in a monogamous relationship (including marriage), doesn’t mean they aren’t still attracted elsewhere. Your attraction compass doesn’t turn off just because you have someone to love. Not to mention, anyone can be a cheater. On that note, sexuality is NEVER an excuse for infidelity.

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Bisexual people only have threesomes. That sounds exhausting.

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I could turn you straight/gay. Thank you, next.

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DON’T ASK QUESTIONS YOU DON’T WANT ANSWERS TO.

This is the whole, I don’t understand our fetish with other people’s sexuality. It doesn’t have to make sense to you, it isn’t your life. Who I sleep with is none of your business and whether you sleep with anyone at all is none of mine.